Resources

There are many organisations that may be able to help with support of personality disorder or emotional dysregulation. Please find below some recommended and highly regarded organisations.

Understanding Personality Disorders

Support for Families and Carers

When someone you care about is struggling with a personality disorder, it can be confusing, overwhelming, and at times deeply painful, not only for them, but for those around them. At Headway, we believe that understanding is the first step toward compassion and meaningful support.

This page will help you understand what a personality disorder is, how it’s diagnosed today using the latest psychological model, and how it may affect your loved one’s relationships, emotions, and everyday life.

What Is a Personality Disorder?

A personality disorder is a mental health condition where a person’s inner experience and behaviour — the way they think, feel, and relate to others — is consistently different from what’s considered typical in their culture or environment.

These patterns usually:

It’s important to know that a personality disorder is not a character flaw, nor is it the person’s fault. It’s a complex condition often shaped by a mix of genetics, early life experiences, trauma, and brain function.

A More Compassionate Approach to Diagnosis

In the past, personality disorders were diagnosed using strict “types” (like borderline, narcissistic, or avoidant). But that system didn’t always reflect the full complexity of real people’s experiences. Today, many mental health professionals use the Alternative Model for Personality Disorders, found in the latest version of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM-5). This approach focuses on:

 Their Most Prominent Traits

Instead of trying to fit people into one label, this model looks at which personality traits are most intense or problematic. These might include:

Negative Affectivity

Intense emotional ups and downs, sadness, or anxiety

Detachment

Social withdrawal, feeling emotionally distant

Antagonism

Acting impulsively or struggling to plan ahead

Psychoticism

Unusual thoughts or perceptions that may feel confusing or distressing
Each person has their own unique pattern — and understanding that pattern helps clinicians offer more effective, individualized treatment.

How a Person Functions

This includes:

Identity

Does your loved one have a stable sense of who they are?

Self-direction

Are they able to set and follow through on life goals?

Empathy

Can they consider other people’s thoughts and feelings?

Intimacy

Are they able to form close, meaningful relationships?
The more difficulty someone has in these areas, the more likely they may be experiencing a personality disorder.

How Do Clinicians Make a Diagnosis?

Loving someone with a personality disorder can come with intense highs and lows. You may experience:

These reactions are normal, and you’re not alone. With the right knowledge and support, families can learn how to:

A formal diagnosis should always be made by a qualified mental health professional — such as a psychologist or psychiatrist — using careful interviews, observation, and sometimes standardised assessments.

The process involves:

Importantly, a diagnosis is not a label — it’s a tool for better care. It helps clinicians, families, and individuals understand what’s happening and develop a clearer plan for support and treatment.

You Are Not Alone

Personality disorders can be challenging, but help is available. If you or a loved one is struggling, reach out for support today. Early intervention and the right treatment can make a world of difference.

Resources

Australian Support Services

BPD Foundation Australia

A hub for information, resources, and support networks.

SANE Australia

Support and education for people living with complex mental health conditions

Beyond Blue

Mental health support, including resources for personality disorders.

Lifeline Australia (13 11 14)

24/7 crisis support and suicide prevention services.

International Resources

National Education Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder (NEABPD)

Leading global organization providing education and support for BPD

National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH - USA)

Research-based information on personality disorders.

Mind (UK)

Resources and advocacy for mental health, including personality disorders.

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